Why am I blogging?

My daughter's smile is the lovely one you see above! I love to see people smile! Maybe that is why ...I like to capture smiles or snapshots of things that make others smile with my camera. I know we can't go through every minute of life with a smile but I hope that even when life is hard we can have a peace that others will notice and desire. My blog initially started as a way to honor my mom and her great outlook on life. She died in May 2010 from cancer. I don't think I can ever due justice to her life but I hope I can live my life in a way that would make her proud. The one other great privilege I have had is to be Carol Hensley Singletary's mother. She was our only child and she died suddenly on Feb .27, 2013. She was 19 years old. Her zest for life, her smile and her loving personna is missed by many, but none more than by her husband of just 6 months, Cooper. We carry on by grace and faith in God, and will look for any means to smile while we are left here on this earth for some reason by God. What I would give just to see the beautiful smile of my mom and daughter again! I know without a doubt I will someday, but until then I am going to try and praise my God and King in the life's good days and through life's pains. And i'm sharing here ...in hopes that you will smile with me. judy!

Monday, March 5, 2018

5th year since Carol died 2/27/13

It has been 5 years since Carol died and some amazing and special things have happened. It started last weekend.   Karen and I took our Jim Good to hear his favorite bluegrass band in Greenville TN (Doyle Lawson and Quicksilver).  On the way home, I got a message










  that the boys team from Tri Cities had won the state championship for the TSAAC(Christian schools) in basketball.  And #22 was there again on Caleb Rose!  Way to represent, Caleb!  Caleb asked to wear #22 when he came to play at TCCS.  He and Carol were good friends when he was a yung fella, and I know she would be happy athis success this year (and his brother Aaron, too).

For reference, in 2010 when Cooper was a senior, the boys won the state basketball championship.The girls were there playing for the second year in a row, but they had not gotten their taste of a championship win, but they were next in line.  In the 2010 tourney the girls were playing with heavy hearts because their beloved Coach Anderson had just died from colon cancer.The girls  were not successful winning a state championship but they sure would have made Coach proud!  The next two years (2010-2011 & 2011-2012)the girls won the state championship with Carol Hensley (#22) taking MVP honors.  The next year the two teams were going back to near Nashville to play in the state tourney again, when they heard Carol had died.  The TCCS girls put Carol's jerzee (#22) on a chair at the end of the seats for the players and played their hearts out..AND they won!  They had dominated teams and came home with the 3rd Championship for the girls basketball program( '11,'12, '13).

The girls team was hit by tragedy again when Coach Jack Blevins passed after a hard fought battle against cancer in early 2015. But the one constant each time the girls played in the regional or state games was Coach Leuzinger's  pink converse she would wear.

So maybe this is the start again of great runs for the girls with next years team.....who knows?

Two friends met-up with me  with me to see the Lady Vols play their last home game of the 2018 season  on Feb 25th against South Carolina at Knoxville, and lady Vols won!(recall Carol & Cooper went to see the UT men basketball team play Florida the night before she died?)

The next thing was Caroline Singletary (Carol's sister-in-law) had blogged about Carol's death and how it changed her life's perspective.  She said it took her 5 years to get the courage up to write about it. It is excellent! Go to www.carolinesingletary.com to read it.

A dear friend of mine, Tammy Rowe, was able to eat lunch with me on the
Feb 27,2018.  We spoke about how long and short 5 years has been and I told her about how the the weekend had gone, we smiled as we knew her spirit was still among us in very special ways.

And on March 3, 2018 (the 5year anniversary of Carol's "Celebration of Life")
 I was in Knoxville again to hear a bereaved mother speak to a group in and around the Knoxville area who have experienced the death of a child.  I had read the book this speaker had written about the single car accident that took her teen son's life,  it is "Grief:A Momma's Unwanted Journey " by Shelley Ramsey.  It was such a great honor to meet her (and I gave her a copy of my book about Carol, "Carol's Smile.")

As I look back on the last couple of weekends surrounding the 5th year of my daughters death, I think so many friends and family have helped me get through this difficult time.  And I know I am closer to seeing her again  Thank you all for your concern for Cooper, too!  I think he is the best kind of guy and I would ask you to pray for him, cause I know it is hard for him as well.

And I pray that we all can keep her legacy and her love and her spirit alive for anyone here who needs to witness it.

judy
mar 5, 2018


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