I want to apologize to my E gals about not posing more this summer. I guess I have had my mind thinking on other life events and just didn't feel like writing at all, but here is another thing for you to think on wth mom and dad.
My daughter Carol died at age 19 a little over 5 years ago. One of our friends who took her wedding pictures, now has 3 daughters and 2 of them knew Carol. She asked it I would write some things about Carol so they could speak of her still and teach some things to them from hearing of Carol's life or how she approached life.
Many people always comment on what a lovely smile Carol always seemed to have on her face. She lived life to the fullest but at times there was not a smile but a frown that she had for certain things that happened around her. So this is "List of Things that made Carol Frown"
The first thing was if you were not loyal to a friend. So if you told Carol
she was your friend then she expected you to support her no matter what and she for sure would be there for her friends (even those friends she might not have seen alot). She often discussed some kind of drama going on at school between others (mostly girls) and how it made her sad that they could not get along better. She truly valued a loyal friend. And even she had some friends that she would have to continue to put up with their on again off again ways of friendship.these friends were great to be with most days, but on other days she just had to put up with their foolishness. Yet she was always looking for those who she could offer a kind word to or invite them over to our house.
One thing Carol did not like at all was dishonesty. And I think she became more aware of this after she got out of school. She saw how other people just could lie so easy to her and to others. And how some people did not value other's hard work and would steal from their Carol and Cooper's business. She had asked me several times "How do you know who you can trust and who you can't in life, and how do you know who will take advantage of your kindness?" The best thing i could tell her was you just have to ask God to guide you in those decisions. And sometimes when you feel like God has not answered your prayers He may have answered themS in a way that you may not have expected but He will show you how it is for your betterment. It may be to teach you a life lesson. Life lessons can be hard, but know this: If you place every bit of your trust in God, He will be there with you in every situation to guide you and to let you know He loves you more than anything.
Speaking of people who love you, like your sisters and your mom and dad...don't they make you frowm sometimes? I know I did to Carol, but it is only because she took it the wrong way. I mean, I never did intend to ask so many people to wear that crazy coat. She hated it with a passion. It made me smile though to see her go crazy when i pulled the coat out. But even though she did not like that coat, I know she knew that I loved her as much That's what good moms and dads do. And that is all that really matters.
The guy who wrote about Carol in the newspaper had never met her but he talked with many people whom she knew and he described her in the first parqgraph as a frown flipper . I think that is pretty neat, don't you. And i think that would be a great way to honor God, is to share his love by wearing a smile and not a frown.
Hugs from
judy
