Why am I blogging?

My daughter's smile is the lovely one you see above! I love to see people smile! Maybe that is why ...I like to capture smiles or snapshots of things that make others smile with my camera. I know we can't go through every minute of life with a smile but I hope that even when life is hard we can have a peace that others will notice and desire. My blog initially started as a way to honor my mom and her great outlook on life. She died in May 2010 from cancer. I don't think I can ever due justice to her life but I hope I can live my life in a way that would make her proud. The one other great privilege I have had is to be Carol Hensley Singletary's mother. She was our only child and she died suddenly on Feb .27, 2013. She was 19 years old. Her zest for life, her smile and her loving personna is missed by many, but none more than by her husband of just 6 months, Cooper. We carry on by grace and faith in God, and will look for any means to smile while we are left here on this earth for some reason by God. What I would give just to see the beautiful smile of my mom and daughter again! I know without a doubt I will someday, but until then I am going to try and praise my God and King in the life's good days and through life's pains. And i'm sharing here ...in hopes that you will smile with me. judy!

Tuesday, August 13, 2019

Sometimes it helps to be reminded of the Truth in life.   These are words that a man spoke at my church this past month.  They really resonated with me.  I needed them, and thought I would share them with you.  I hope they will encourage you as you go about your life.  Thank you Justin Ciralsky for speaking these to all that were there that morning in July 2019.

Let me tell you who you are……
You're strong and mighty in Christ. 
You have the same spirit that raised Christ from the dead dwelling within you. 
You are a weapon of righteousness in a dark world.
You are not your past. 
You are not what you did. 
You are not what they think you are. 
You are who God says you are. 
He says you're redeemed, He says you are FREE!.


 You are not a hostage to your unhealthy thoughts.
  The weapons that you fight with are not the weapons of this world. 
They have the power to demolish strongholds. 
  You have the word of God guiding your steps.
Worry is not your master. 
You trust in God, 
his peace guards your heart, guards your minds 
and guards your souls, in Christ Jesus. 
You have not been given a spirit of fear but a spirit of power and of love and of a sound mind.
  The Lord is your helper. 
You will not be afraid.
You are not a slave to your habits. 
You are not a prisoner to an addiction. 
You've been rescued from the power of darkness and brought into the Kingdom of God's light.
 You are empowered, 
you are called, 
you are chosen, 
you are the masterpiece of God created in Christ Jesus to do good works
  which God prepared in advance for you to do.
God will bless you abundantly, so that in all things, at all times,having all that you need,
 you can bring him glory.
  God is for you, 
And God is with you.
  No weapon formed against you will prosper.
  Nothing can separate you from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord. 
Not angels,
not demons, 
not the present nor the past
not any weapon will separate you from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus.

Step into the truth, you are who God says you are. Amen. Go in peace!

Wednesday, June 19, 2019

AM I a Singletary?

Priceless: An Unexpected Blessing!
Last night as i watched 5 young ladies practice basketball for the UPWARD team I try to help at Trinity J'boro, we were almost done, and a lady sitting behind me,tapped me on the shoulder and asked if I was a Singletary or related to one. It kind of caught me off guard. I am helping coach (term used very loosely) a girls UPWARD basketball team where my sister and dad go to church in Jonesboro. I attend a church in Johnson City , but had heard that they might need coaches in this program. So I volunteered to help if needed.
Back to this lady's question question of me: I said "My daughter was married to a Singletary" and I proceeded to tell her "My name, is Judy Hensley, and my daughter is Carol Hensley Singletary . I told her that she died in Feb of 2013, and that she loved basketball and actually played in the first UPWARD league at Trinity.
Those of you who know my Carol know that she went on to excel in basketball at the high school level and was twice the State MVP of the conference in which Tri Cities Christian school played.
I asked her name 3 times because of what she told me next: "You don't know me, but when ever the name Singletary comes to my mind, I pray for you." What is even more amazing is I think she didn't know Carol either, but said she knew a friend of Carol's. I thanked her for praying for me and told her that .
February is always rough because Carol died on Feb.27, 2013.
Now you can't tell me that is coincidence, or karma, or a medium who can communicate with my past. This encounter happened by God's spirit moving in a unique and powerful way to let
this child of His know that I and my daughter will not be forgotten any time this side of heaven. Thank you Heather___ for sharing how God uses your prayers to uplift those of us who know Carol Hensley Singletary!
Now please excuses me as I go have a snottin, and crying fit as i try to find a box of Kleenex!
January 2019
Judy Hensley

Thursday, April 11, 2019

Story of Da Coat by Judy Hensley--SHARE!!!

Chris Woods of Chris' Twirlettes wanted to wear this coat and hear it's story after hearing of it from  a mutual friend, Tina Lyle.


My name is Judy Hensley and I bought this coat at a local Big Lot around ten years ago to see how many other people thought it would be fun to put it on and have their picture made in it for me.  I found out quite quickly that my own daughter despised the coat.  She actually took it  to youth camp the first year of it's existance.  But she was determined to leave it there.  I actually gave her permission to do so, but what she did not know was that I had found another one and already bought it home to have when she returned from camp.

She was quite appalled that I had done this to her.  And I told her I was coming up with a way to use the coat for good.  And I asked her to please let  me take her picture  wearing the pretty colored coat, and she resisted for several years, but I finally had lots of other people who were wearing the coat.

After several years people started wanting to know about this coat, and why people were letting me take their picture in it.  And it wasn't just local people: there were people in Washington, California, Florida, and even England who were eager to have their picture in the coat.  So the journey of the coat to several states and overseas a time or two began.

 At that time, I had made several friends along the way who had something in common with me.  They had Parkinson's Disease.  So many of my friends with PD helped me boost my volume of pictures with anyone wearing this coat.  

There have only been a handful of people who would not wear the coat.  And I began to add into the story of the coat , the story of what it feels like to have Parkinson's Disease.  I was even so bold to ask a friend who is a great advocate for PD and ALZ (Alzheimer's Disease) if she would take the coat with her to the top of Mt. Kilimanjaro in Africa, and she said she would!  

Some have said I should charge people to wear it, but there are so many who have not paid to wear it, but they graciously gave me a minute of their time to list to the story of the Coat!  Some even started callin it 'Da Coat!   Now, I currently have a bunch of pictures with people in 'Da Coatt that are hardc opiesw, and some electronic copies.  Best I can estimate, I have close to 500 people who have worn  'Da Coat.














Thursday, March 14, 2019

The Stamper Clan is at it again....

The Stamper clan is at it again. To make this short enough to read in a couple of minutes, if you are interested in background of how we know Aimee and Brandon Stamper you should read a book I wrote about our daughter, Carol, called "Carol's Smile, the Life and legacy of Carol Hensley Singletary".

I'll start this story from  2/24/19 when I got a message from Aimee saying they were in Johnson City without their 3 boys and wanted to know if they could stop by and see us a few minutes. I said "of course",  I thought they were being kind to see us near the date of  the anniversary of Carol's death (6 yrs).  This is true, but they also had another motive and that was to tell us their tribe would  be increasing by one in July of 2019!   Then Aimee said "It's a girl!".  She went on to tell us she knew it was a girl before she had the first ultrasound.  And Brandon then  revealed  the ultimate reason for their visit.  

They asked for our blessing to name their baby girl "Carol."  I don't know exactly how Bill reacted because I could not see him through my tears.   We of course said, "yes" and felt so honored to know that this little one was named in honor our girl.  One thing I can say will be a sure thing is  this:  Carol Stamper will no doubt blaze a path that will point others to Jesus as the lover of their souls.  And I figure Carol up in heaven is probably thinking "Thank goodness she is being born into a big gang of Tennessee  Volunteer fans! Can I get an AMEN and a GBO?! " GBO - GO BIG ORANGE

I asked Brandon and Aimee if I could write about this special time and they have been so kind to say "yes." This couple is nothing short of remarkable in my mind. The Stampers had formed an amazing bond with our daughter during the time that Brandon coached her in basketball and Carol had the utmost regard for them and their first son whom she met before she died.  You can really tell how much they adored her in their hand-written notes to her in the graduation card they gave to her.  I copied their comments to include them in the book that I wrote about Carol  and her influence  on people.

And I know baby Carol is gonna have the most awesome family to lead her, love her, and show her how to live life to the fullest. I think lil Carol Stamper will be taught well and will light up many places with her smile!

Now a note to baby Carol's brothers:

You big brothers better say a prayer that your sister will by more mild mannered than my Carol was  or you will have your hands full!  Here is what I think your roles will be in her life.....
Big Brother Bready:  since you are oldest you will always be your brothers and sister(s) protector.  I can see you standing with a big shield (you better start looking for an XL one soon) in this role.  And later on when your sister  is growing up and catching the eye of some boy, you better find out their intentions and let them know how heavy your shield is and that you are not afraid to throw it in their direction if need be.   
Big Brother Anderssen:  I think Carol will think of you as her partner in crime.  If she is going to do something that could lead to trouble she will ask you for your opinion and then say "let's do it anyway!"
Big Brother Boone:  Since you two will be close in age, I think you will be her confidant and the one she will take-up with the fastest.  And if you don't keep an eye on her, she will soon take your title of "The BOSS!"

And brothers, all three of you,,,you better get ready.  Baby Carol, your little sister, is gonna be a game changer in big ways!  Hang on for the ride and have lots of love, fun, and laughter  with her!

And to the Stamper's family and friends, please join me in praying that this family will continue looking to God and His faithfulness for their lives.  Pray that baby Carol will be healthy and the best Stamper baby ever, and that Aimee will be healthy the rest of the pregnancy and she will adjust to not being the only princess in the house!
I can't wait to meet this gal!
written by Judy Hensley
3/14/19

Tuesday, January 1, 2019

Drinkin straight out of the sweet tea jug!

2019 startin off great
I must tell you about how my 2019 started.  And if you can't tell from the title it is good. I only drink straight from the sweet tea jug on special occasions (and I don't tell Bill--it grosses him out).   But here is the drift of my story:  I went  to the Karing Hearts Foundation New Years Eve Gala, after much cajoling of a friend.  This friend who was so determined that I should come is Jennifer.  She is the person with whom I volunteer  at Kari's Heart Foundation.  I must tell you I have had some awesome volunteer jobs in the past few years.  And especially with folks who understand my limitations with Parkinson's Disease and they can relate to my 'generally beneficial attitude'" of "I am gonna make this work come heaven or high water."

For the last year it has been a blessing to volunteer at Kari's Heart Foundation with Jennifer Schoondyke, a woman that I greatly admire.  She is funny,.  Actually a better description of her is hilarious; a woman who heart is more compassionate than any other I have known!  And she also gets this 'thing' about  me...she knows what it is like to live through the tragedy of a child that has died. Jennifer and her husband and two grown kids are  the driving force of Kari's Heart Foundation since it's inception in 2009 .   See more about Kari's Heart Foundation.  Read Kari's Story, and tell me what an amazing group they are!! Their foundation helps families of hospitalized children.  What Jennifer does as director of KHF is no walk in the park.  Yet there are days you'll find her  skipping all over the place when she hears of a good report about a kiddo and their family that KHF has helped. 

Why do their do what they do?  I think Dr. Schoondyke said it best when he said these people are my neighbors, and they are your neighbors. The tag line of KHF is "Inspired by one to benefit many" and you can ask any family that has received assistance from KHF what it means to them, and they are almost at a loss for words.  Yet they find a way to convey how truly grateful they are to KHF.

So since I was going alone to this Gala on New Year's Eve 2018 I finally told myself, that I came last year in 2017 and had a good time with several friends from a Bible study for Mom's who had lost a child.  We all sat together at a table and laughed and had a wonderful time.This year I was fortunate to sit some friends that I get to rarely see, the Gilcrest's  and Deanna Gragg and her husband, Rob.  So when I had a chance I went out to my car to get some money to buy a 50:50 raffle tickets (50% of total ticket sales goes to KHF ad the other 50% to the ticket holder--but you had to be present to win.)  One ticket was $10.  When I went out to the car I had some cash from Christmas gifts  in the amounts of $9 and  $100 .  So I thought... my odds of winning this raffle only get better with more tickets, and after all, it was for a great cause! So I took my $100 that was gifted to me, and gifted it fKHF for 12 tickets for a $100 donation.

So midnight came and went and as I stood there waiting for them to  possibly draw a ticket with my name on it first and collect half of around $3800, I prayed and asked God to show me that 2019 was going to be a good year for me--cause I felt I could use a year better than 2018 for many reasons.

There's one tradition I learned about last year... it is that the recipient of the 50/50 raffle  typically gifts thier winnings  back to Kari's Heart Foundation.  So I thought "That is cool, I want to continue that!" I don't need extra money to get a blessing from winning, but I really could get a fantastic blessing from giving back something that got multiplied 17  times.

Now I must admit I have never won too many things, especially not cash, but I felt like surely one of my 12 tickets would be pulled.  Well the first ticket was pulled, and they called a lady's name but she was not there.....so they called another name, this time a man's, but he wasn't present either.  And then MY name was called, and they made me come all the way up front where I celebrated with Jennifer and was able to continue the tradition of giving all of the winner's 50% back to KHF!

It kind of feels great to keep the tradition alive.  The theme  of his year's gala was "A Midnight in Paris"...so who knows???  Maybe a trip to Paris is in the 2019 picture.  IF it happens I will be sure to let you know!!

Jennifer, how does that sound for an adventure?

Now I've got to finish that sweet tea and hit the sack!  Happy New Year Everyone!!!!
Judy 1/1/2019