My take on Whiners, Wimps, Weasels , and Winners in LIfe

I like to watch people and especially how they interact.  In recent days I have had several less than pleasant interactions that I have seen and those times started me thinking on some labels thatI put on people as to how they react to what life throws at them.  And I don't know if my 'getting up there in age' makes me think more in a negative mode about people or if it is really true.

One of the few shows I watch fairly regularly on TV is Survivor.   I am not sure why it is but I think the people and interactions there parallel many I have seen in real life.  Other things I like are food and sports.

Along those lines and in an attempt to 'define' for you my 'people classifications' below, I will use the categories of  Food, Sports, Survivor, and teamWORK/Livin life.  These will also be known as YUM, PLAY, MachoMan/Momma M&M, and Livin Life  LL.

So without further ado...here are Judy's People Personas:  Wimp's, Whiners, Weasels, Winners and the 'Also Ran'.  This may not be an exhaustive list but it seems to cover many of the people I have had encounters with in life  So here they are with more descriptions..see if you 'd agree....

WIMPS  -- in the YUM area, Wimps never want to eat anything new--usually just because they had one bad experience.  In the  PLAY area they show up and make a big scene and then cry when things don't go just their way.  In the M&M area they talk a big talk and never produce anything to back it up, and the Livin Life are the wimps are have no backbone, no will power, and no incentive or initiative because they are scared of what might happen.

WHINERS-in the YUM area, Whiners may try something new to eat but they wish it was hotter or colder,  bigger or smaller portions, and on  and on . In the  PLAY area they show up, talk big but are distracted from doing a good job because nothing goes to suit them.  In the M&M area whiners don;t usually get too far because their constant complaining is such a distraction and irritation for everyone else. In Livin Life the whiners are always wishing the day away thinking tomorrow will be better, but at the same time they are not willing to do much to make things better for them or anyone else..

WEASELS--As far as Food is concerned, the weasel is consumed with anything that is yummy, so don't expect them to share at all.  And if you have any thing really yummy of your own, you might want to lock it up or the weasel will make a way to steal it.  As for the weasel at PLAY, they do not make good team mates because they are always looking for an out...if the going gets rough they want to get out asap!   The thing about weasels is they are deceptive and very unreliable...they may start a task but if it requires more energy than they like they will drop out of helping.   But, sometimes in games it is good to have a weasel on your team to throw the competition off.  Weasels are usually in a decent mood as long as one of their recent ploys went as planned.  In general in M&M situations weasels should always be counted as possible road blocks or one that can easily detour your best laid plans.

 Now for the WINNERS...everyone want to be one.   Some want to be it every time.   Some Winners are team players;  some are not.  For Food, the winner can prepare a feast, eat it and never gain a pound.  For Play, people who want to be Winners will go the extra mile to help reach their goal. They push through the rough spots, and keep their heads up.   The M&M type will use all their talents and develop new ones to win.   And in Livin Life most winners are hard workers who use their resources wisely and humbly.  It is those who get to the finish line by running over everyone else in the process that are weaselly winners.  Boo hiss on them.

As we all know, we can't all be winners.  So no matter what part of life you are in, if you show up and give a good effort, you should be proud to say "I was an also ran. I may not have won but I enjoyed the Food, the Play, the Megawoman role, and the fact that I did better than those whiners wimps, and weasels along the way.  It is not always easy but it beats being a coach potato with nothing effective going into my brain".  

So that's my take on it.   I am ready to start the day and live like a winner even if I sometimes fall into those not so becoming "W" ways.  But I will warn you, if you are a wimp, a whiner, or weasel or a bad winner, get outta my way!!!   I am going to make the best of this day so I can give God glory for the blessing in this life!!!

  Judy

  4/25/14

A Poem inspired from attending the Parkinson's Unity Walk

If you didn't know it I thought I might do a little part in telling you that April is important to me because it is Parkinson's Awareness Month.   As part of that, the largest grass roots fundraising event for Parkinson's Disease is held in April in Central Park, New York City .

I have not been  to the Parkinson's Unity Walk in New York City for  several years, but did make in 3 years in a row in 2006, 2007, 2008 and it was always a very special time for me, my family and friends who joined me at the event of hope for a change in the future of all who have PD.  Usually around 10,000 people are there to encourage one another and make a statement about the continued hope foe a cure.

 The walk is also special to me because it is near, or as it is this year, on my mother's birthday.   She was my biggest supporter as I faced life with Parkinson's.   She also instilled into me a faith and courage drawn from a strong faith, hope, and love in God.    I will be thinking of and cheering on all  who will be in the walk this year.  I would like to share this poem that was inspired from the walk I attended in 2008.   I wrote this on the plane on the way back home from the walk in 2008.  

To find our more about how you can help in the fight against PD see Parkinson's Unity Walk and an article about our team the first year I did the walk along with my Jerzee PD Pal, Annie is at 2006 PUW team of Annie and Judy

I’m learning PD’s not as strong
When I face it with a heart filled with song.
And what a gift to receive… a smile, from a friend,
That helps me make it to another day’s end.

I cannot think of it all
And ignore blessings, big or small,
That come from the Father above
Who smiles down on me with kindness and love.

No matter the circumstance or place
He promises He will not hide His face…
Love, grace, and mercy He will supply
Even when we struggle and ask “why?”

Father, this road looks too hard for me
Would you send someone encouraging?
And give me strength to face each day,
With courage, hope, and faith, I pray.

For I know you are in control
Of all of me: heart, mind, and soul
Let me be a reflection of your goodness
To those around me who may be happy or in distress

I want my life to follow your plan
As I walk among my fellow man
And one day may your voice I hear
Telling me you’ve found my love for you honest and sincere

And that I am welcomed into the Heavenly place
And will spend eternity in Your love and grace!

all rights reservered 2008 Judy Hensley

So appropriate for Valentines Day!

This blog post contains thoughts  that I found from Cooper to Carol written in her 2009 year book.  It seemed so appropriate to share on this special day of love.  I asked his pemisson to share  it in my blog, and being the awesome guy he is he said OK.  Thank you Cooper, I think yours and Carol's story will move and inspire people for a long time.   It has given me an added measure of pride in how you and Carol loved and respected one another.

For those of you who may be reading this with limited background..here is a short summary:   Carol Hensley Singletary was our daughter who we were so very proud of in many respects.   She did alot in her 19 years on this earth. She excelled in lots of things (academics, sports, being a loyal friend, being a compassionate soul, and lots of stuff) and was reaching a new stage in her life...an exciting and challenging one, to say the least.  )  Carol graduated from Tri Cities Christian School in May '12;  she and Cooper got married Aug '12 after dating for 3 and a half years.  They moved to Gatlinburg and started their own business there in Sept. '12.  Carol celebrated her 19th birthday in Oct '12.  She had finished her first semester of college at Walter's State Community College at the Sevierville campus. She and Cooper got a dog and named her Roxie.   Life was good and then Carol died suddenly on Feb 27, 2013 in Gatlinburg TN.  It is our strongest sense of peace about her death to know that she lives now in the presence of her Heavenly Father and we will see her again someday.  Knowing that, this Valentine day is the last of holidays that we knew her alive.  In just a few days it will be a year since her death.   It has been a year of so much pain but so much love shared by our family and friends with us.  As I was dreading this last month of the year without her,  I wanted to let people know we are doing OK.  So I thought I would write something about that on Facebook, but worried people might not get all that I wanted to express from my written words so I made a video of my thoughts and put it on Facebook at the first of Feb 2014.  Of course I got emotional ( I didn't mean to....it just happens  with thoughts of her many  times).  Many people sent me notes of encouragement. 
  One of the people who sent me a note was a young lady who had gone to school with Carol just one year in 2008-2009.  This young lady now is married and has two lovely daughters.   Her name is Amber and shortly after she sent me a note explaining how awesome Carol was from her short interactions with her, Ambers's youngest daughter was in the children's hospital near where I live... I sent Amber a Facebook note letting her know if she needed anything that we lived close and  could glady help her with any needs that tend to occur during hospital stays .  I went and visited and prayed for them a couple of times.   The last time I went I took Carol's 2009 yearbook since that is the year Amber graduated.   It was fun looking and hearting about the times they were there together at school.  As I looked through Carol's 2009 yearbook, I saw Cooper's sentiments to Carol recorded on 2 full pages.  She and Cooper had started dating in Jan of 2009, so they had alot of things he wanted to make sure she remembered.  
  I must say I was touched but not surprised at his remarks.   Not only am I really proud of my daughter, I am  so very proud of the young man that God sent our way and that Carol loved and married and was having a great marriage with him.  Although they had only been married 6 months I don't know if I ever saw any two people happier or more suited to be together than they were.  
  So with that said, I thought it would be especially special to let others see how much Cooper loved Carol even after a few month of dating.  So with his permission, the following is a typed copy of his written words to Carol most likely written in May '09.  I think you will be blessed by reading it and know that there are still young people who care deeply about one another in the best kind of way possible.   How thankful I am to know Cooper Singletary, and how grateful I am for his love that he lavished upon Carol.  If you really want to know what a true kind of love is about, read on.....

 Cooper's note in Carol's annual 2009:  this was hand written, a 2 page note, from Cooper to Carol just about 3-5 months after they started dating.  

Hey Babe, whats up!  As I'm writing this right now, there are many thoughts going through my head.  As I sit here and thing of what to say....lol.  There is something really important to me!!  That's YOU!!! You are absolutetly amazing and have made my life wonderful!!   I LOVE YOU!   Those three words are very important to me.  I thought i knew them well until i met you.  I can truly say that i do love you and YES, it 's real...Lol.  You are my 1st true love~  you are so caring  and when I'm down, you bring me up!when i am sad, you make me happy!  You are so important to me, and I wanna stay 2gether 4ever!     :)  We are not on the same page all the time, but we've gotten so close and have already gotten some struggles out of the way.I think we are really serious and 4 real about each other and you're so THE ONE!  You are a beast at vball and bball;  i love wathcing you play and to brag 2 everyone that you are MY GIRL!   LOL, I have so many memories already I can't wait for the many more 2 come!  When look back 2 when I first really started liking you, till now, wow, its been  amazing!  My life has dramatically changed..  I heart u.  (starting 2nd page)   I remember when we went iceskating and played music and everything ...just think it was only the start..LOL. OH, I even remember when we wrestled and I totally whooped you.  ha ha!  oh, can't forget the pic ha ha ...when I look back at that , I really laugh hard.  Man, v-day and when you came over to my house...that was AMAZING!  Yeah, I remember.  All the little things you did for  me and gifts.  The 1st movie I ever saw with you "twilight" hehe and our 1st kiss ever!   There's so many good ones  and 'dang' my hand is starting to hurt.  When I waited for a sign...lol Jt..But me asking you out officially in Sam's vehicle...iIke OMG.  ha ha .. The concerts were great!  Can't forget the trampoline .  But i know what that whole day meant.  It was great!!! 2 all the other ones I missed and you know about, psh..lol.  You are so beautiful and gorgeous!!  There's times I'm amazed and think 'dang, look at her !"    I loved the junior - senior  and dressing up and getting pics .  There's just so much to be thankful for!  "YOU" :)  I hope you have a wonderful summer (with me of course...lol) .  I love and care about you so much, so don't forget.  I like how we have so much fun and joke around, it's great!  I will cherish what time we have  and will have in my heart forever!  From your senior man!   LOL ...I love you Carol Michelle Hensley  signed in cursive:  Cooper Singletary